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wholesale conversion

Yes, it is possible for all of us to make a wholesale change in perspective.

When I first started to come out to my family, the sister after me began to make noises about my condition being “curable” if I really put my mind to it. Contrast that where today she has come around to such an extent, that she completely understands that being trans isn’t a choice.

To put this conversion into context, my sister is a person who is still very much embedded in a deeply orthodox Catholic organization and yet she was able to educate herself to the point where yesterday over our yearly lunch she asked me to forgive her for having doubted me.

"We all need to be who we are" she said which meant a lot coming from her.

While we may not see eye to eye on many aspects of religion, we have closed the gap on an issue that was very important to me. My family should above all appreciate that it is this is not about making themselves feel comfortable but about giving us the benefit of the doubt and letting us be who we are without judgement.

She has seen pictures of Joanna but has never met me that way but this coming around of hers could result in a future meeting. But even if that never happens, the fact that the most ardent skeptic was able to change to this extent is extremely gratifying.

She proved to me that we can all grow at any point in our lives.

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