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take it from someone who learned the hard way

Its easy to get caught up in the "why me" sometimes because life isn't easy for any of us.

I had a stable home with two wonderful parents. I am highly educated and speak 3 languages. I am a musician and an artist as well as holding undergraduate degrees in both physics and engineering.

However I didn't ask to be born trans which caused me a significant amount of stress growing up. It's easy to forget everything else and focus on that riddle I couldn't solve until I was over 50 years of age. It turned out that fighting it wasn't the answer and all those years of wasted energy could be cried over if I indulged it. Trying so very hard to lead a conventional life turned out to be a mistake.

If you are truly trans there is no point swimming upstream against the current. Take it from someone who learned the hard way.

I still catch myself sometimes saying "why me" but then I stop because there is just no sense in it.

We are who we are.


  1. Personally, I don't think there is an answer to "Why me?" Things just happen. But enough of my personal agnosticism about the cosmos. :)

    I'm more curious why, when we are so inclined to ask "Why me?" when bad (or perceived as bad) things happen to us *not* likewise to inclined to ask the same when good things happen to us.

    For instance: "I had a stable home with two wonderful parents. I am highly educated and speak 3 languages. I am a musician and an artist as well as holding undergraduate degrees in both physics and engineering." Ever thought of asking, "Why me? Why did I get so lucky?" Not to take away from the accomplishments that required conscious effort to get your education or to become a good musician, but not everyone is born in a stable home with two wonderful parents, nor is set thereby on track to be able to get an education, and become other wonderful things. Most people in the world have much less.


    1. that is precisely what I tell myself Caryn and realize I am much more fortunate than not :)


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