Passing privilege must affect mindset. A Janet Mock doesn’t think the same as a Miranda Yardley because they are a different species. One is an attractive woman who could easily pass for cis while the other does not blend in at all. Perhaps because of this reality, Yardley does not think that transwomen should be called women.
Perspective is everything.
My friend Sherry transitioned young and thinks of herself as just another woman. She has dropped the trans prefix which works fine for her as you would never think of her as anything but an archetypal specimen of a female. Her partner doesn’t know her past and perhaps its just as well given the bias in this world for this type of difference by people who are not always open to understand. Sherry does not blend into the trans world in any capacity other than perhaps read my blog and tell me her thoughts by email or Messenger.
My friend Caryn, a frequent commenter here and another young transitioner, is in much the same position in being able to choose who she tells.
We are all different, but I would like to think that passing politics will be a lesser factor as time moves on. I have since discovered that it was my own self confidence which took things over the top and, no matter how much my advantages should have helped me, they couldn’t if I didn’t first believe in myself.
Passing used to be the holy grail in a world hostile to trans people but today it is the confidence to be whole and in harmony with yourself and that is what we should be our priority above all other things.