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Soon the summer Fridays will be over and it will be back to the regular weeks but I've enjoyed every minute of it. The experiences I've had have yet again expanded my confidence as Joanna. Recently I was at a thrift store and a very friendly older French lady just struck up a conversation with me out of the blue.

She eventually ended our overlap with a very bouyant "Bonne journee Madame!"

Things are easy and they flow because I am radiating comfort and am brimming with confidence. My makeup routine is down to a simple art form and my wardrobe stripped down to comfortable but pretty essentials I don't need to fret over before stepping out.

My body language isn't stiff but I am always ready with the phrase "Excuse me but do we know each other?" should someone offer some unwanted commentary which never happens. I am a creature of routine and am happy with the amount of people I know and socialize with which balances my need for company with my essential character as an introvert.

Also, the fact that I am out to so many people and am nevertheless embraced has made a world of difference I cannot adequately put into words.


  1. Fantastic!

    "Also, the fact that I am out to so many people and am nevertheless embraced has made a world of difference I cannot adequately put into words."

    Double- fantastic! l find the same thing in my life as well. To have one's full self seen and embraced, as opposed to misunderstood, but tolerated, is an ineffable joy.

    1. If only I had figured this out sooner Caryn 😀

    2. We can all say that, even me. I may have transitioned younger, but didn't figure that one out until later. Besides, each of our journeys is its own unique entity. You're not behind on yours; you're just on it. And doing great.


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