For years I have been fascinated with the dividing line between playful cross gender expression and a transgender nature. With the understanding that we all possess both masculine and feminine traits, it is fair to say that women are given more leeway with this expression than men. Hence, as an outlet for their need for expression some men will secretly or openly crossdress. This should be seen as healthy and not the least bit abnormal; at worst it's a unique preference practiced by a minority of the male population.

Adding gender dysphoria to the mix (in varying degrees) tends to cause conflict which is why you will generally (but not always) see crossdresser sites as being jubilant whereas trans sites catalogue some form of internal struggle (at least for a time). If you need to agonize over whether to transition or not it tends to get heavy. If you have never contemplated transition and reject the idea outright then you have removed a big weight from your shoulders. Note that I do factor into the equation people who do progress as time goes on due to underplaying unrecognized or disavowed dysphoria.

My readers know that I have no issue with crossdressers whatsoever, however identifying them separately has helped me draw some conclusions about where the dividing line of dysphoria lies and how to identify it. One of the most memorable things that was ever said to me by a gender therapist affiliated with the hospital identity clinic was that the people most keen to transition at the outset often did not follow through, whereas those who resisted most ended up undertaking some form of it.



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