Our best versions
Can love grow on soil that is not fertile?
One of the more frequent models I have seen in my life is co-dependency
where two both partners look for the other one to fill their
needs. This cannot properly work since the only person who can repair your own
issues is yourself. It is why the tandem of two people who are secure and
content in their own skin is so rare and why I have met few couples who meet this
criterion.
One can become convinced that co-dependency works because the
fear of being alone is such an overriding concern for so many that it serves as prime
directive. In this scenario, the individual will tolerate dysfunction simply to
not feel isolated. Most of us need tending to childhood issues which impede us
from loving ourselves fully such that without this remedy we cannot adequately
love someone else. It is why so many relationships are only as healthy as the
weakest link in the chain which is the partner in most need.
Once we learn to truly love ourselves then we are ready to enter
a union to become the best versions of ourselves.
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