If we protect ourselves first we cannot be hurt but then we cannot truly be vulnerable by letting others in. I think to some degree we all have a carapace that we have fashioned to protect ourselves from emotional injury but if it is too thick we will miss out on connection.

As older trans people we may have built up bigger defenses just to survive and they may even have extended beyond where we intended. The carnage of failed marriages and relationships scattered in our wake speaks to that reality.
If you have somehow managed to keep that openness and vulnerability intact then you are to be commended.


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