Points of reference
Lord knows I am not a trans separatist and those who have read my blog long enough know that I love to push back against the Blaire Whites and "Cloudys" of this world for their snobbishness against other trans people. However I must point out that we seem to be conflating gender nonconformance with being trans. A horse and a zebra may resemble each other but they are not the same animal.On YouTube you will find videos by someone named Heidiphox who I only mention here by name because for me they represent the archetypal married crossdresser. It's an exaggerated form of femininity which gets brought out and then packed away in a trunk until the next time. It's perfectly fine but it's just that it's not the same thing as a transitioned trans person living life in as authentic a manner as they can. In other words, April Ashley this is not.
I am seeing this conflating happen more and more within our community and the general population is even more hopelessly confused.
Having said all this I know for a fact that there are many older trans people calling themselves crossdressers who really aren't (perhaps as a form of self protection) and by now I can clearly recognize who they are.
Making this distinction is not discrimination but it does instead help those looking to find some points of reference when they see others. It's also an exercise I needed to perform before finding myself.