Some time to learn
We don't suffer because we want to but rather we rail against what happens to us and do not accept the outcome which only extends the pain. I am not suggesting here that there is an escape from it because humans need to mourn. Still, it is somehow noble if we realize the value of suffering as an instrument of teaching.No one is so stoic that they can will themselves out of suffering but I would suggest that failing to address the root cause of why it does not at least dissipate over a certain issue, is our own responsibility. At a certain point in life we need to accept things which, as inconvenient as they first appear, will not change and hence must be embraced so we can move on.
This lesson took me some time to learn.