No regrets

In retrospect it's clear to me that my dysphoria needed medical intervention early on in life, but I waited until my 40's to get it. I waited until my breaking point and had been carrying the weight of first born expectation, Catholicism and the societal portrait of transsexual as freak show curiosity; and I couldn't possibly be that. Still, this could be 1822 and I would be in a worse position. Like many born before we had access to credible help, trans people muddled through, with many I suspect leading lives of quiet desperation.

Over my life, I have developed coping skills I didn't know were in me which is why I am so happy today. My formula reconciles with my past while embracing a hopeful future where my identity is fully embraced.

I wouldn't recommend trans kids wait as long as I did (thank God they don't) because that road is arduous and full of denial, but I cannot say that I live with regret today. For I did what we knew for my time and I worked with the tools I had.


  1. Like you I led quite a full life before transitioning, while I do not regret any of it ( I could hardly regret my marriage and my daughter!) I a aware that there things I missed out on, just as there are experiences I had that were simply not available to women of my age.

    I have no regrets and have largely enjoyed life, but I am also so pleased that young trans people now have a much better chance of exploring their gender identity and getting help. I look at some of my young trans friends and see a true happiness in their eyes, that I'm not sure ever used to be in mine.

    1. you are so right Paula and I agree with you 100% :)


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