Two women friends of mine (both in their 40's) are undergoing messy breakups from long-term relationships; one of them being a first marriage. Being in a couple is at its best sometimes challenging and at its worst a nightmare and often, besides dealing with the realities of daily life, there is the grappling with each person's neuroses and childhood traumas. So it becomes the choice between the imperfection of being alone versus that of being coupled once awakened from the honeymoon phase. Add to that one of the partners being trans for good measure, and it's even more complex.Nothing in this life is perfect but as I listen to these women describe their present ordeals, it makes me glad I'm not in their situation. Still, I know there are couples who make it work who aren't held there for economics or children and would stay even if those constraints were removed. Therefore I know it's possible.